Many parents are concerned about children’s anger and they come to find help and support.
The first and the most important thing is to look for an answer in:
the family system
in the child’s environment
his/ her daily life / routine
It might be related to:
family dis-functionalities
his/ her unmet basic needs
insecure attachment
problems related to the integration of his/ her life experience.
The child with unconscious bad behaviour may try to:
- draw parents attention ("Hello parents, pay attention to me, I am alive, I am here, I need your help and support!!!");
- protest against the conditions of existence, where any of his/ her desires and interests are oppressed ("OK, so you're not listening to me – this is what you are going to have!!!");
- struggle copying with conflicts within the family, which he/ she can’t understand and these conflicts make him/her feel stuck ("I do not understand what is happening, help me !!!")
Angry behaviour always has a reason. To find this reason is our job!